I am a member of Homeexchange.com – meaning I am able to receive offers from avid travelers all over the world to exchange houses at some point. It is totally fun fantasizing about visiting some of the places from which I receive offers.
So the other day, when I received a too-good-to-be-true request to exchange with the palatial home above in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, I was all over it. San Miguel de Allende may not be up there say with London or Paris as one of the top five places to visit, but I have read and heard so much about it, I have been itching to go…and this was a free place to stay for a couple weeks.
In the words of Lyle Lovett, I thought this was a “dream made to order, south of the border…” until I proposed it to m y husband for our family vacation. To my surprise, the response was a flat out “No.” Not a “Let’s think about it…or Maybe..” but “NO.” Hasta la vista Mexico. He had no interest, didn’t think it would be good for the kids, etc.
Really? Even though he relies on and trusts my travel knowledge, and I plan the trips, he wouldn’t budge.
I am always up for any kind of trip and ready for an adventure, but I am sure this happens in a lot in families. So I called upon my travel agent slash family travel therapist John Clifford for some advice. (InternationalTravelManagement.com) He suggests:
1) One partner gets to choose the current destination (say, a summer vacation) and the next trip, the other partner chooses (say a holiday trip,or next vacation).
2) The couple agrees to choose a “neutral” third destination that they jointly agree upon.
3)Choose a destination that “hits all the passion points” and tends to please most all couples. A few are:
Costa Rica: Abundant nature with immense rainforests teeming with wildlife, breathtaking beaches, affordable & romantic resorts, endless beaches, mountains, rivers & valleys, exciting adventures, seems to please even the most picky couple.
Mexico: Vibrant culture, colonial cities full of charm, ancient Mayan ruins, culinary delights, resorts that run from boutique to over the top, beaches that blind the eye, the country has it all. (Uh, John…can you please place a call to my husband on this?? LOL)
Italy: Who doesn’t love Italy, whether you’re a movie star, or a couple taking your first trip together? The cradle of civilization boasts iconic cities from coasts, to mountains, artists such as da Vinci and Michelangelo, islands with spewing volcanoes, to other worldly Venice with her gondolas, the infamous Roman Empire and her ruins, or the Lake District’s belle of swanky, Lake Como. With millennia of history dating back to the 9th century BC, art, culture, and dreamscapes of Italy seduce both men & women. Italy once ruled the world, and it often overpowers visitors with a heady mix of more than the average mind can comprehend.
My suggestion -go to a region that offers both beach and culture or beach and city. The French Riviera worked for us – our first home exchange.
There are so many fantastic places in the world to travel, if you just take some time to think about it, you and your partner are bound to find something to satisfy all tastes. Now – who wants to join me in San Miguel de Allende?